HI

As always, i apologise for my long absence from this blog. I was so busy with school work, life`s hustle and of course hibernation from the swedish harsh winter.
I hope that this post finds you in your best of health.

Firstly, i should warn you that in the future i might be limited to rarely update the blog since i have my degree project  coming up hence going to get filled up with work.

Today, i just wanted to send a shout-out to all genuine friends and genuine people in general. It has unfortunately become a survival tactic for some people to be fake. I personally think that this comes with bad parental upraisal right from when one was a child. I might reason like a social worker here, but the fact is that i am a social worker and this is the way we should aproach to people. This does not mean that i am justifying fakers, i rather mean that FAKERS do exist and we should try to live with that. Having a bad background and being hated for being fake can have a tragic effect on these people. everyone needs  love; so lets try to accomodate them while we know that they are fake.
You propably are thinking why i go about talking about fake people on this sunday people. The reason is that I was dealing with close friends who were getting harassed by fake friends; and this post is a reaction to the week that just ended.
Fake people come in many ways and here i will discuss those that i came contact with:

The selfish-type: They act that they are good friends and when you succeed in a project, you call them and find out that they switched their phones off. you meet them at the mall few days later when the celebrations and all the hype has settled.They come with the excuse that they were sick, or not in town. Here, the real reason was that they were enclosed in their rooms and were mourning your celebrations. remember, these people might sound or act like your best friends. many people might be shocked of your break up.
The secretive-type: This type is so real with you, but is so fake when it comes to sharing things. Real friends share stories, ups and downs..fake friends dont. These type might not cause big harm. If you dont like drama and surprises, you are in for a big shock.
The hater-faker type: this type is a nightmare. They act like good friends, but they are in competition with you. no one wants to be in competition with his/her best friend. If you want to test if your friend comes under this category, carry out the following tests: Crack a good joke or tell a good story, and while u are telling the story, observe the face of the person, you will realise that the person looks not interested; this is because he/she is unhappy with people loughing with you. After the story or the joke; the fake-hater might immediately start a joke or story in order to over-shine yours, smart people might understand the scenario, but if you are a loyal friend you might not suspect anything and be the last one to get the whole idea.

Summary : tolerate who dont hurt you, abandon those that might cause you harm; its simple. i normally tolerate the secretive type; shun the selfish type and allow the hater-faker to hang around me and make a fool of him/herselfself. Once a hater-faker realises that you are aware of his/her game, he just disappears from your life. If you have problem with your self-esteem, i advice you not to hang out with a hater -faker because he/she might try to overshine you with their stupid moves.


Hoping that the post comes in hand in your daily life, i wish u all the best in your lives..cheers