Need for distraction..

Right now its all about me, someone told me that if i have to succed in life i have to be selfish and focus on my target::I say BULLSHIT...Thats not the way mama raised me; it is this time when i really need my people, my friends and the haters as well :)

Anyway; i am halfway the study that i was doing in my final degree project. this of course makes me glad.But, the truth is i am far away from the touch line..i am prety much distracted by the thoughts that i am wedding in less than two months inshalah. I get great dreams during the nights, which is good for my fantasy but not for the work in hand.
Am sitting by a window, enjoying a good helicopter view of architect of the Edsberg buildings..nice bungaloes, not better than the one i am sitting in tho..for ya information, i am living with a friend on my stay in stockholm..she is a very sucessful carrier woman..she is adoring, isnt she?
My dream is smashing the degree project and taking a short trip to the UK..then pack and face Kenya..this is the only way i can keep my focus..Do this, u are going home soon..haha feels like a kid being enticed to finish the food if he or she has to go out with mummy later..
Wish me good luck guys..cheers..

Oh yeah..A swedish cultural minister was pictured eating a cake that was designed as an african cirumcised woman (i mean fgm)...honestly, she is just stupi..am not hurt..i have seen worser thing than that..in between she is blond lol

cool runnings !

Hello good people!

hope all is good with all u readers out there; apart from my seldomely updated posts of course;;which i again aplogoise for..
Before going into details about how life is doing me at the moment; i will first share my experience with friends.

As i spent almost halv of my life in sclassrooms and school environments, i believe that my experience with diferent students might be worth to share with you guys. I was reflecting on the diferent schools that i went to and the people i ment in my entire life. I realised that i have made over a thousand friends, most of them met in school environments in my entire life.
In Sweden, i met few, they are good people, and i really do love them. However, how people in sweden define friendship is diferent from how its defined in Africa. In Africa, friendship means, being ready to take bullet for someone,otherwise u are not a friend. there is nothing like good or bad friend. you are either a friend or not.
Whereas, after few meetings, someone calls u a friend, few weeks pass by, the person cant even show support when u are struggling with minor crisis. This "friend" can even diss your calls and never call back. Actually, my grandpa advised me on this; he said the worst enemy is the one that poses as a friend and on the other hand he/she is not sincere in hi/her commitment to you. I wish i had listened to Grandpa, Now i am getting defensive when it comes to people around here. The fake people are getting better in their game and that makes life harder. they are taking their game to the next level; so it is all about watching your backs.

That was my friendship piece of advice to you good people out there. If u find a good friend stick to them.
BACK TO ME: I just applied for my masters in Malmö, the third biggest city in Sweden; If i get admission, it is a very big step to my dream profession; international social worker, aid worker,political analyst, social consultant..the options are many..i need ya prayers guys!
Now, i am packing my stuff, taking the train to stockholm to meet my Degree-project supervisor. It will be a good weekend inshalah..The aim is to write 10 pages over the weekend with the overall target being 40 pages..wish me good luck !
I will get back to you when i come a bit further with the writting. At the moment, my world is all about reading and writting, and of course thinking about my loved ones..

did u know that a lion gives the strongest fight in the last 15 minutes of his life! It is then a lion is in the sharpest, most agressive and focused state...yes, u can compare me to a lion hehe cheers guys ..

Squirky bum time !

This is a phrase associated with the sound that comes from the seats of nervous soccer fans at the end of matches. Sir Alex ferguson, the coach of manchester united, introduced the term to the english media in 2003 when he said, its squirky bum time !
Now, with me  and everyone who cares for me its squirky but time, am soon out to face the future if i am alive then (inshalah)..thats why u dont see my new posts these days! sory about that..

I ask for your prayers and patience untill the day am done with this shit; am taking a month out from the blog..i will try to post stuff now and then..

take care..lovee

Good evening !

Difficulty moments in the sense that the work on the degree project  is showing minimum progress. In such times, one needs to spend time with people who can make u have a lough. In this post i wanted to share the moments i had with an older friend; i mean old as in age. 

He gave me a story about a bush man who was asked the question: sugar and date, which tests sweeter, the bushman goes, do u mean the immediate test that comes into your senses as you put them in the mouth or, the test that remains later on? the questioner was puzzled as this was a question he never expected, then the bush man, figuring out that the man was lost in translation, he continued, he said; both are sweet, but sugar is just good if u only need to test and go while date is sweet if u want to experience a longer test in the mouth. He continues, sugar makes u sick after few licks but dates` sweetness lasts longer..

The moral lesson of the story!

....................have u realised that when u meet people, u like some of them on the first eye sight, others take time to click with them and others never get to ya attention at all? well, those who you like them at the first sight, be careful, they are like sugar. while those who never come to ya radar, dont wory, u are maybe lucky not to learn about them. on the other hand, those who take time to like them are always better than those u click with them on first sight; these are the dates type..

myself, i have a first hand experience with this.When we first started uni, there were some people whom i was I was attracted to as friends from the first meeting, not to realise that like sugar, i feel like vomiting after having too much dose of them.

After 3 years, those that had no place in my heart then came to be sweeter than the rest, like dates i cant get enough..I learnt that people are not what they try to be, but what they are ! take time to know the real them before u make a decision...

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This does not mean that i hate anyone, we dont hate sugar,its not edible, but it serves other purposes like tea, coffee sweetener; i mean if they cant play the right purpose, they are still human and who knows they can one day come in hand..

............DID U KNOW THAT:  A FEMALE PRAYING MANTIS CHOPS THE MALE`S HEAD OFF AFTER HAVING SEX ?

drama and emotions..

I just realised that people on facebook are so complicated, actually, it reflects the kind of society we live in. try this; when someone posts a picture, since we dont have unlike button, give a negative comment, i assure you that  this person will either delete your comment or the picture. my point is this; we live in a world of insecurity, no one is secure with his/her life even if they seem so..this makes me sick. I come from a culture where we call a spade a spade; rather calling a spade a big fork. of course, there are mean people who enjoy making others feel bad; we have them everywhere,,but, at least they dont outnumber the other nice people ..

The other problem is that i have realised that there are many of those type who wake up in the morning, and post  a status of what really goes on in their mind; so, imagine this, everybody has  problems, imagine a scenario where everyone posts about his/her innermost worries on facebook, i guess that facebook is no more a place of fun, its a place where people offload their problems; thats why i am more into twitter although, i kno that the trend is also changing there..
That was that ! lets hope for a drama free world..i have made my choice; i have no room for drama in my life..u should do as well ! it helps in building a less complicated life..

Having a quality dinner with my roommate; talking a bit of shit here and there and blending with quality mature talks..deep talks..haha
i wish u all a good night..take care of yaselves and of each other..peace !

Too much hapening?

As always, i really would love and hope that this post finds you in the best of ya health; I just wanted to write some random stuff today !
In my world; i want to welcome all optimists and hope that the pessimists  learn from their negativity.So, let me start things that are going on in my life:

I am writting the degree thesis, and the good thing with this is that i just talked to a man whom i inspired for so long. This man has just taken his PHD in social work and acording to be he is one of the most influential academician in my life. Therefore, i am driving to stockholm to morrow to have  a lunch with him. More on this will be updated on another occasion. so, basically, a big weekend is coming up..

Secondly, the visa to the UK is sorted and so is the ticket to London ! I am glad that i am finally meeting my best of all relatives: my cousins and aunt ! they are what i got in europe ..LOVE..It was my dream to spend some time with my lovely ones, work on my thesis and maybe, just maybe, get a nice surprise from one of the cusins, who last time got a united ticket for me :)
All the above happening at the moment; with my journey to Kenya nearing..and the wedding as well..i dont say too much for a short time, i say too much for a blessing ! living life Alhamdulilah(Thanks to the almighty)..
talk of a weddin, my cousin is wedding today, and i cant share the joy with him, but i promised that we go on a safari together..he knows that i love him, so, its all fine..

On the other hand there are some issue that make life a bit boring; things like wars, petty conflicts, hard exam questions, bad teachers, hopeless people in our planet name them all,,
I just heard that a very nice guy that i kno, was being murdered by a rival tribal gangs; Really sad..he got killed just because he is from a certain clan; Even when he has nothing to do with the fight..sick world indeed..


That was what is going on in my life at the moment; so, let me go back to my other random topics. I would like to end this with a bit of comical questions that i always ask myself..
I go to kenya or uganda, i am a european or american, does that make me an african expert?
a lad was telling me, his `white`friends say they go to africa to see animals, and i know of some people who went to a country in Africa, and from day 1: there facebook status read: We just landed in Africa; Am i confused or geography has changed when i came to this country? As far as i kno, africa is large and has many diferent ethnic groups. And generalising everything u see to be an african thing is so wrong!

For those who were asking me about why i let the beard grow: i think its the bauty of masculinity, check this out and dont take it personal, see it from the funny side..

Did you know that :

...the white iphone is more expensive than the black one, even when they are exactly the same model and made..LOL

The week that was !

Hello people !
As usual, the week was generally a good week. It started  with some volunteer work with the red cross, then followed by an hour of work (work as an interpretor), then came the engine nock of my car and came a fantastic news that two women were ready for my thesis interview. while celebrating the fact that i had only three remaining interviews and two sucessful ones, then came the news that the former president of Somalia Abdullahi yusuf has passed away. I dont know this guy and cant say if he was bad or good, but i surely have respect for any one who can dream of leading the chaotic failed state of Somalia let alone leaders. Please, dont get me wrong about "the failed state" phrase; it does not mean somalis are failures, as the word might sound to be hinting. Failed state means countries with no proper government, and its not as offensive as it might sound.
Back to Abdullahi Yusuf; in my eyes, he was a leader who was facing lots of challenges; when many somalis evaded the war, he was there to hussle with life and try his lack as a president. He was serving in Siad Bare`s government in the 80s, he went against the dictator and was among those who toppled him; this is a fact that i got through prominent somali politicians. So, i am in Sweden, i cant do a lot, i can only send my condoloscence to somalia and Yusufs close friends and families.
That was last week; next week will be another good one inshaalah..it will be about studying and lots of writting; and of course we hope for cool moments as well.
Then on Friday, me, together with my roommate-cum-comprade..are celebrating the week with a weekend at the city of stockholm..we are planning to hire a car and enjoy the 170 km ride..
with those few words; i wish every reader a good life and a joyous week :)
safe guys !
Did u know that :
 The male honey-bee explodes to death when it reaches climax during sex..haha